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The Art of Not Complaining


Been sitting here for around 10 hrs on a crumped airplane seat and all my joints and butt and every inch of muscle is aching, stiffening and complaining. There are itching corners I cannot reach and numbing toes I cannot relieve. My mind and body has hundred and one reasons to complain, be grumpy and whine…. oh but wait, I told myself, sit on it, calm your pettiness! Discomfort ba kamo? Think about it, Mama has been on her bed and immobile for 18 months or 12,960 hours, bed-ridden, bound on her constant state of assortments of aches and discomfort, numbness and pain… she can move and change position only with a help of carers… and yet seldom she complained. Majority of those time, as I remember now, she was in her calm and accepting state. And I have imagined now (teary-eyed) the endurance she put on all of those agonies… while me complaining now of a numb toe! Ohh stop it! Pettiness indeed!

– April 25, Pacific Ocean, Seamount

Before I turn 50


This is actually cut-and -paste from my page… written 10 yrs back. Shameful to say, i have accomplished just few (those in Bold) – and now i have only less than 2 years to do the rest… good luck to me…

Horseback riding (on a running horse)
Can make 20 kinds of salad or pasta
See Vatican and Rome
Sea Cruise (Asia)
*Have an Exercise Routine
*Ilocos Tour
Founded a Charitable Foundation
*Charitable mission at rural area
Make love under the starlight (ohh can I change the place na lang? 😅)
Have a date in Paris or London
Back in shape!
*Able to save for my retirement!
document lives of 20 ordinary people
*Underwater Walk or Snorkeling
Be serious in photography
Ride a wildest roller coaster with Jolo (or any great adventure with Jolo)
Write a book
Make snow-angel or sand-angel
*Debt-free, saving-mode
Poll dancing
Visit a rainforest
*Published a company manual
Have a portfolio of home accessory designs
US Trip to see my brothers (soon – in few weeks from now)
*Vacation with parents at Naga
*Mountain hiking
*Be part of a stage play (concerts!)
*Continue hosting gift-giving charity work
*Donate blood

and may I add few more…

  • Reunion of our HS BFFs (CSG&GMS)
  • Be able to have another scholar
  • Set up new consulting company
  • Add new stores for Pillow Me
  • My art
  • Start investing on a beach property

Date in Heaven


Mama have joyfully joined Daddy in heaven… and we know she is now in a happy place, where she can walk, run and do her usual busy-ness and maybe fussing Dad and having fun… she will not definetely trade places with us here… but know Ma that you will be terribly missed by everyone you cared about and helped in anyway.

You have lived your life well Mama. You are a remarkable and selfless mother (a loving lola, an influential aunt, a joyous friend, a loving sister and a dependable daughter)… you have showed us examples of perseverance, prudence, generosity, leadership, toughness, sacrifice and love! You have endured and triumphed a lot and you must be proud of how well other people succeed through your influence, advise, inspiration, pushing, cheering and support!

You have touched so many lives. Not only us, your children, but almost all those who have came your way. In any grand or even simple help you were always ready to impart so unselfishly. I am honored to have shared my Mama with them! I am very very proud that you are my mom! I love you so much Mama… 💔💕🌹💜🎈

#mamanibabel #byebye #feb23 #paalamansapebrero #mamaNgBayan #magdatenakayoninDaddy



Saw you vividly, as I turned

In your flowery green dress

Smiling, beaming 

Standing, walking


Both of us… 

We embraced … I held you tight!

And Just realized how long since i last hugged-embraced you… long time… 

Cant embrace-hug you… How can I? Your back is always held firmly by your bed… 

But tonight i felt our embrace! 

Pure joy … Your joy… 

Beaming in your favorite green dress…

Then I felt that i have to loosen our embrace… 

But not just as yet … 

To let go… 

My Simple Pleasures in 6 Words


Im doing some bulletpoint journaling of things that marked my “mundane”, ordinary life… BUT Ordinary our everyday life may seem,  we just dont actually notice that small blessings and reasons to be thankful for… We might be failing to see those tiny pleasures, simple gestures, unnoticable events or even that warm heartfelt feelings of momentarily joy (even in the midst of sadness or tension).. Mind you there are so many… Go Take Notice and Be Grateful!


Gratitude Journal


Here are 20 topics for gratitude journals that will keep our heart singing….

  1. Things that make me laugh
  2. Prayers of thanks
  3. What I’m grateful about myself
  4. People who’ve inspires me
  5. Opportunities I’m thankful for
  6. The friendships for keeps
  7. Life-changing experiences
  8. The job/projects I love best
  9. Relationships that we cherish most
  10. Moments of “firsts”
  11. New awesome places
  12. Life’s lessons
  13. What makes my house a home
  14. My defining moments
  15. My chances to help
  16. Appreciations thrown my way
  17. Receiving help and support when least expected
  18. New interesting knowledge and learning
  19. Discovering new hobby or passion
  20. For everyday’s simple pleasures

Keeping a “physical” journal is hard (for me), though I know I’m always excited every start of the year, and I have several notebooks and journals to start writing on — haha but as you can see (just like my blogging) I never kept-up at it…. (is it only me?)

Well, maybe with these lists above, it can be a good start …. again….

  • #ListsNiBabel
  • #MakesBrainOrganized
  • #HopeMasustainNaman



My 52 Pieces Marbles


New beginning. We are given again another year, another 52 weeks, another 365 days. No guarantee though, but we can take it one-day at a time, a-week at a time. So how am I going to spend these days whole-heartedly and purposefully. Right! Fill with fun, adventures and positive attitude about the future, and most especially the Present, my “every moment” our “Now”

My 52 pieces marbles, I will not let a single one be put in “dull” jar… So, i will now again to embark on my 52-week adventure. Let’s plan to create memories (or maybe suddenly make unplanned adventures):

The 52-pieces marbles representing our 52-weeks in a year, this is inspired by a story (here or something similar to this)….

Will I make a shortlist of things to try?  doable weekly or on any spur of the moment ….

  1. Dine again at Red Planet Restaurant
  2. Try Go-carting
  3. Girl’s Out
  4. Decorate Aliya’s room
  5. Donate pillows Childhaus or PGH
  6. Make a new dress (sewing)
  7. Gym with Papi and Lean
  8. Weekday Bike with Aliya
  9. Decorate the Alfa store with Aliya
  10.  Gardening project
  11. ….. let the list be open….

will update you soon….

Spilled Marbles