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“Lived Fully, Died Empty”


This is “patented” to be used by Bro Jojo Baldo— a favorite speaker– on his tombstone: “HERE LIES A DISCIPLE OF JESUS…. HE LIVED FULLY; HE DIED EMPTY!”. On my day of death, I will have given away all!

Since I’d heard it, I’ve been contemplating on these words. I’ve started to see life and what it offers everyday as my another chance to be a “better me” than I was yesterday….. that I have to give and show what I have to offer back to life…. that eventually, on my last day, I could proudly say, “I have given away all!”

It’s now becoming my everyday goal to do something that gears towards the accomplishments of my goals… I am consciously doing things to make my day worthwhile, and so does the day of people I love around me.

When I was asked during a seminar by (another) speaker, “how long it would take you to make your dreams come true?” I instantly said, “having given my almost 10 hrs of my day to work, well, I still have 3 hours left for me EVERYDAY to make my dreams come true….” Well, I knew (by the look of his face) that I have given him an incorrect answer, the one he is not expecting (his answer was, “I don’t know” because he said we don’t know if we’ll ever achieve our dreams because we don’t know if we’ll ever live tomorrow!)… Well, he is right, I agree. But it’s either I got his question wrong… or I have different perspective than what he had in mind…

He is right, but I still stand to my answer, because I know I take each moment of my life EVERYDAY towards my dreams, may it be grand or simple, or just sheer pleasures of doing things that matters, or tiny steps to reach certain dreams. Having considered also the “dooms-day theory,” I know I am WORKING on my dreams EVERYDAY.

I am now in the wake of a wonderful Tita 😦 (who may not have “given all and everything” in the perspective of people around her, but who knows, she might be probably felt satisfied all her life just happy seeing us all succeed and grow, and have contributed on it in the process— but that’s different story…), that’s why probably I been in this contemplating mood…

Now it made me think again…. I have to formulate my own epitaph for my own tombstone…. (since, I cannot borrow anymore from Bro. Jojo’s)…. and I want to imagine that everyone (my mourners, i mean) will “agree” on it…

…and I realized that I don’t have to stray away from the theme of this blogsite, or rather from the theme of my life…. because I been living on this creed (or trying to)…. 🙂

So, I want my epitaph be read as:
“She Took Each Moment as it Comes For All That It Is Worth… She Lived Her “Dash” Fully”

(this may not be quite original as this is inspired also by Og Mandino’s Seed of Success and poem “How Do You Live Your Dash” by an anonymous author)

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If I Had My Life to Live Over


by: Erma Bombeck

I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over dinner even if the carpet was stained and sofa faded.
I would have eaten popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair would ‘fly’
I would have burned the pink sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about the grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching tV — and more while watching life.
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the eart would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “later, now go get washed up for dinner”
There would have been more “I love yous’…more “I’m sorrys”… but mostly given another shot at life, I would sieze every minute… look at it and really see it… live it… and never give it back….

(Erma Bombeck, lost her fight with cancer in 1996)

also from her:
“when i stand before God at the end of my life,
i would hope that i could not have a single bit of talent left
and could say, “i used everything you gave me”.”

Tuesdays With Morrie


I have this book lent to me by a dear staff “Tuesdays with Morrie” by Mitch Albom… and it is a great read! I started this afternoon and I know I can finish it in a flash… but I can’t… or I mean, I don’t want to. Very seldom that I do this in a book… prolonging its ending, savoring its every page and every word, absorbing the wisdom and enlightenment. Just like we do to a favorite food…. we savor its taste wanting it to last….

“Don’t let go so soon. But don’t hang on for so long”

This true-to-life book is about “living to the fullest, with compassion and love” and the advice came from a dying man, Morrie. If we can only stop and think that we can die anytime soon, we will do things differently, or shall I say, meaningfully. At one point, I envied Morrie for he knew that “it” is coming, thus he became focused of what he’ll do for the remaining of his life. Unlike most of us, we dread dying but we are not actually doing anything to appreciate life as if death will happen in the next 100 years.

I will not make a review of this books… I will not try to. I just want to share my experience while reading it and some of the enlightenment I had. I rather share here some of the quotes that hit….

About Dying and Living

“You know, dying is just one thing to be sad about. Living unhappily, that’s another matter.”

“Do what the Buddhists do. Every day have a little bird on your shoulder that asks, “Is this the day I’m gonna die, little bird? Huh? Am I ready? Am I leading the life I want to lead? Am I the person that I want to be?”

“When you realize that you are going to die, you see everything much differently. So every day you say, “Is today the day I die?” When you know how to die… you know how to live.”

“I mourn my dwindling time, but I cherish the chance it gives me to make things right”

see other quotes here

In retrospect, I may have shunned “this” topic about death and dying, but I believe I am “preparing” for this. As you can see the essence of my blogs and my journaling is actually living my NOW to the fullest… seeing life at its finest, seizing every opportunity to be happy and be compassionate. I am learning and there are lot more to experience….

I hope one day when I near “it” I would be able to say that “I took each moment as it came for all that it is worth…”